For all his altruism, he is intrinsically self-centred. Having been waited on hand and foot for most of his life and had people jump whenever he called, he has never really had the opportunity to be anything else.
He was refighting the Battle of Prestonpans, marching to Derby , advising General George Murray on tactics and encouraging the troops; in his mind’s eye, waiting hand and foot upon his hero, Prince Charles Edward Stewart.
Sometimes, with strangers, excessive expectations of and need for support arise from these earlier relationships (my husband waited on me hand and foot). However, we are in a shadowy area unless we have some secondary verification of how those relationships worked.